Have you been on numerous dates and feel that you are no closer to finding the love of your life?
Have you been in short-term or long-term relationships and feel they did not provide you with that certain spark you always desired?
I want to show you how becoming clear on what you want in a relationship will bring you so much closer to a loving relationship. I will also show you how to attract the love of your life into your world.
I feel incredibly confident when speaking on this topic because I was in your shoes. I spent a decade dating men only to find that none of the men I dated were actually what I desired.
There is a belief going around that women need to be married by a certain age. There is another couple of beliefs out there too, like…”all the good men are gone,” and “I’m too old to find anyone decent”. This limiting belief gets instilled in us from the media, advertising, maybe even your parents and that auntie who always seems to have a lot to say about how your life can improve.
It’s no wonder that we panic and fear dying “alone” with these thoughts bouncing around in our heads. Have you ever stopped to think about how bizarre and untrue those negative beliefs actually are?
End listening to limiting & negative beliefs:
Well, with the combination of limiting beliefs and fear about dying alone we can make meeting the man of our dreams a very urgent task. With what seems like the clock running out only increases our urgency and feelings of desperation.
I can remember being set up by one of my friends for a blind date. I was so eager to attend this blind date because I had been told repeatedly by friends and family that I needed to “settle down with a nice man”. Usually I would not have gone on a blind date, however, I felt fearful that he was my last shot at a future partner.
This man was lovely and he ticked all the boxes on paper, however, there was no spark or chemistry between us. I went on 7 dates with this man hoping that a spark would flicker at me. I was desperate to make it work. What I was actually doing to myself was saying “Leisa, you do not deserve to have the romance you think you deserve” and “Everyone is right, all the great guys are gone, even though there is no spark, he ticks all the boxes on paper”. I did eventually see the light and the dating ended with this man.
It is no wonder that you haven’t sat down and thought about what it is that you do actually want in a date and partner. We have believed that we need to grab what we can, settle for that guy because you may never find another partner after him.
This is completely untrue.
You Attract What You Think About:
Becoming clear on what you want in a man provides not only clarity in your own mind, however, you begin attracting people with those qualities into your life. Through this form of changing your thoughts to be in line with what it is that you do want will allow you to attract the very things that you desire.
Wayne Dyer says this “You create your thoughts, your thoughts create your intentions and your intentions create your reality”.
Make your thoughts supportive of what it is that you want in your partner because you will get exactly what you think about.
I attracted men that were liars and were unreliable and I now know that I attracted them because I was constantly thinking to myself “I really do not want someone who lies or is unreliable”. From my past relationships I became fearful of certain behaviours because I knew that a loving honest relationship could not be built on lies.
So when you are thinking about the desires you want in a partner do not revert to fear because you will attract the behaviours that you are thinking about.
How to be clear on what you want and manifest it into being:
I sat down and decided that I would think about the qualities I wanted in a man and in the relationship. I became incredibly clear on my desires. I not only became clear on what I wanted in a partner, I also attracted a man with those very qualities on my list and we have been in love ever since.
Make a list of all the qualities you find attractive in a partner. Make the list as specific as possible. This will allow you to start getting clear on what it is that you want in a partner. Read the list and edit it until you are satisfied with it.
When you go on dates you will be crystal clear if you should continue dating this man and possibly starting a relationship with him. You will no longer be wondering if he is the right match for you because you will know. Having a list of the qualities you want in a partner will also allow you to feel more confident because it will give you clarity and you will not waste your time waiting to find out if he is the right match for you.
“Every thought you think is creating your future” Louise Hay.
It is great to keep this list with you and read it whenever you can. This will allow you to embed these qualities in your subconscious mind and attract this person into your life. When you read through the list you will feel happy and excited about what it will be like to finally meet him. This uplifting energy sends out a high vibrational frequency into the universe.
What you put out into the world gets reflected back to you. So if you are always saying things like “I will never find a partner” your vibrational frequency is very low, negative and sad. So that is what will be mirrored back to you through experiences. Instead read over your list, be positive and feel joyful, because that energy will come back to you not only in the form of a loving partner but in more ways than you can imagine.
And lastly, believe that you deserve the man who you are manifesting. I spent years not seeing myself for who I was. I never dreamed that I deserved someone who would love me unconditionally. However, once I set out on a path of clearing the crap out in my mind and loving myself. Well, that is when I really started believing that I deserved the best partner for me…and the universe delivered.
Leave a comment below and tell me how you went with your list. I would love to know if your experience was as fun as mine.
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