Are you surrounded by friends and family who have very limited thinking when it comes to dreaming big?
Let me ask you this, are there some dreams you have that are so big you choose not to share them with anyone? Especially certain friends and family members? The repercussions of telling them your dream of flying First Class one day would leave them making you feel guilty about spending the money right?
I found myself doing this the other day. Almost every weekend my partner Mark and I go driving around Sydney to look at the most fabulous houses money can buy. We view the houses because in our minds will are going to be in the market for those houses! However, I was having a conversation with someone who has limited thinking and I was telling them about purchasing a home. I completely dulled down the idea of ever owning or even considering owning a mansion. Instead I made them feel comfortable by saying, “Yeah, we hope we can afford a home for about $350,000”. WHAT? Are you kidding? Then I not only feel deflated, I am angry that I said those things to make them feel better.
We need to be reminded that what thoughts we are thinking the universe can hear. If we are speaking in a way that is limited, then we will receive limitation. If we are exploding with endless possibilities then we will receive endless possibilities.
It always comes back to Marianne Williamson’s quote “Who are you not to be great?”. Who was I in that moment? I was terrified of their awkward pauses, or their “Who is she to think big?”. So why is it that we become dull when in the presence of certain people? Because we still haven’t accepted for ourselves that we deserve the life of a millionaire!
Of course I can dream as big as I want in front of my partner, because he will never dull me down or my dreams. The challenge however, is looking your doubter friend in the eye and declaring that you are travelling to Paris with a first class ticket. It is telling your Auntie that you are in the market for a home valued at just short of $4 Million. On the inside you also need to be unshakable, do not lose focus for one moment in the presence of a doubter! Stand firm. Do not blink or look down for a second. Keep your chin up and know that is the life you are planning for yourself and it does not matter what they think!
How do you do this? It is through ritual. When you are looking at the $40 Million homes overlooking the harbour, sit there and tell yourself, “You can afford that!”. “You deserve a home of that grandeur.” “You were born to enjoy this life however you see fit!” From this powerful self talk you will start to believe it!
Another ritual is role playing and acting out scenes. Every time you see your dream car, say to yourself “That is beautiful, I am looking forward to picking up the keys to my new car”. It actually becomes a fun thing to do. Prior to Mark and I buying our beautiful new car, we always used to role play him handing me over the keys to our new car. We did this often and giggled a lot doing it because it was so fun (especially seeing each other acting). However, it worked because 6 months later guess who handed me the keys to my dream car?!
Through this you are feeling what it feels like to experience those events in your life. The more positive and energised your feelings are the better because the universe responds to energy!
Out Shine The Doubters Light!
It is not just shinning your light, it is outshining the doubters self-doubt. So you really need to be in a place of firm self-belief that you deserve the life you want and tell yourself that their self-doubt is a reflection of their thoughts and has nothing to do with you!
Think Big. Dream Big. Live Big! You are the only one in control of how your life will turn out. So, have self-belief and know that you deserve whatever it is your desire.
Remember the universe can hear you!