When we are young we envision a world that is bright and filled with endless possibilities. We have no problem imagining what our future partner will look like, although that changes in each chapter of our lives. Along the way we lose focus of what we want because fear and limitations begin to plague us.
I am here to tell you that your future is still as bright and beautiful as it was when you were young. I have listed the 4 chapters of life below, read each of them and begin to identify what may be holding you back from meeting the love of your life!
Your parents are watching TV so you know your imagination will be safe to play out. You are about 6 years old and you are about to imagine walking down the aisle on your wedding day. You grab your Mums high heels, white dress and use whatever you can find that represents a veil.
You’re in high school and you explain to your friends what your husband will look like and what kind of job he has. You tell your friends what age you will get married and when you will have your first child. They hang onto your every word. Limiting beliefs were not visible at this age, so you continue explaining your fairytale life and of course your wedding day! You explain every detail about what your dress will look like and where you will get married. It all sounds perfect and you feel incredible after sharing the story of your perfect life to be.
You’re in the next stage of your life and the subject of what your future partner looks like does not seem a necessity. You are more focussed on his qualities and his character. You decide that you want someone who will protect you, show you the meaning of adventure, someone that makes you laugh. We each want romance, trust and loyalty. We want someone to talk to and we want to be heard. We want to hold someone captivated by our beauty and our mind.
As we start to date in chapter 3 of our lives it becomes clear that our dream man may not exist. We look for him at parties, bars, through friends, perhaps even online dating. The limiting beliefs start to trickle in, we become impatient and frustrated by the men that seem to come into our lives. In this chapter you may have been married or been in a long term relationship only to find that it was not your ideal.
This chapter is filled with all the things we don’t want. You have been dating for a while or you may have been in a long term relationship and it has ended. We decide after the heartbreak and the time wasted that we do not want someone unreliable. We do not want someone that is abusive in any way, untrusting, a womaniser or a man that has a general lack of respect. We do not want someone that is negative or puts us down.
This can be the hardest chapter of all, as we get older the fairytale romance and the beautiful life with a great man start to get further out of our reach. Deep down we know that we deserve better, so why do we settle for a man that does not give us the things we desired in the previous chapters of our life? Why do we seem to attract the same type of man into our life?
The answer is a combination of things, as we get older we believe through limiting beliefs that we do not deserve the best, or all the great men are gone. You may have a limiting belief that because you have children that love is no longer something for you, or that you should settle for a man that will love your children and it doesn’t matter if he does not respect you or take you out to nice dinners.
Another element is lack of self belief, self esteem and a lack of self confidence. We believe that the relationship that does not make us happy is the only one we deserve. Soon, we figure out that we need to leave and do so, however, the lack of self esteem and confidence remains. This is where the cycle of negative dating patterns occurs. You attract what you think you deserve.
What Is Holding You Back?
What limiting beliefs do you tell yourself? Why do you think you are not good enough for an extraordinary life? Why do you believe that you are not captivating?
What chapter are you in at the moment? If you are reading this you are most likely in the fourth chapter. We go through the earlier chapters of life and we are bright eyed about what our future partner will look like, behave like and how he will treat us. We expect perfection from our future partner and there is not a doubt in our mind that we will fall in love at a young age and have beautiful children or maybe your fairytale is to meet the perfect man and travel the world together.
So what happens along the way? Why are you in chapter four of your life and without the companion and the lifestyle you envisioned on that rainy day when you were talking to your girlfriends about what type of man you will choose?
Your journey is different to everyone else’s journey and all you need to focus on now is how to move past the limiting beliefs, identify why you attract the same man into your life. You now need to release the past and live in the freedom of today. You need to release anger and resentment by demonstrating forgiveness to allow a great man to enter into your life. You want to be free and to look forward to your bright future as though you were a young school girl with all the hope in the world.
Your Future Is Bright!
Your future is bright, it is filled with love and adventure and laughter. There is so much beauty and joy in this world and there is enough for you.
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Sending you love,